“Where did you get it from?” “Are you getting any more?” “Where do you keep finding these babies to buy?” “REAL mom…..REAL dad….” “Are they REAL brothers?” “Where are they from?” This is just a snippet of questions I have … Continue reading
I am feeling frustrated and felt the urge to write it down, maybe if I’m lucky, to find others who identify with this frustration. Sometimes I feel like I am in a world where most people have their eyes firmly … Continue reading
We cannot believe our son is almost 4 months old! What an extraordinary experience this has all been and continues to be. It is amazing being Harper’s parents. He brings such a joy to our lives. These days he is giggling, smiling, and making lots of funny noises. We think he is just telling us about his day. 🙂 With all of the positive experiences we go through on a daily basis just by watching Harper grow and develop, there has also been a very interesting occurrence. We knew adopting transracially would make our family stand out among the crowds. We did not expect that there would be such a variety of responses from strangers, many of which are negative. It truly is astounding that we are living in the year 2013 and racism is alive and thriving. For all of the negative, we have received lots of love and support as well. We just hope that as Harper ages and becomes more aware of people that we have educated and instilled all we can in him to endure any and all forms of racism . We know we cannot protect him from everything, but we want to lessen the negative impacts in his life.
Upon doing reading on the topic of transracial parenting, we learned that transracial adoptions were rare before the 1960’s due to the legal separation of races. In 1972, the National Association of Black Social Workers took a firm stand on the issue of transracial adoption. They stated, “The National Association of Black Social Workers has taken a vehement stand against the placement of black children in white homes for any reason. We affirm the inviolable position of black children in black families where they belong physically, psychologically, and culturally in order that they receive the total sense of themselves and develop a sound projection of their future.” In 1994, the MEPA, Mutltiethnic Placement Act was passed and the Interethnic Adoption Provisions. These banned the use of race in adoption to be used as the sole criteria in the adoption process. Thank goodness for these acts and the people who fought to see them to fruition or we would not be the family we are today.
Transracial adoption is wonderful in so many ways, but the fact cannot be ignored that this is a rough road where educating ourselves is not an option, but a necessity for both ourselves and our child. We are ready and willing to put in the work. We could not feel any more certain that our family was meant to be. Now the journey begins…