I honestly cannot believe a year has gone by already. A year full of anxiety, worry, wonder, amazement, major change and most importantly love. Ellison River Gray came into our lives as a possibility 5 months before he was born. … Continue reading
“Where did you get it from?” “Are you getting any more?” “Where do you keep finding these babies to buy?” “REAL mom…..REAL dad….” “Are they REAL brothers?” “Where are they from?” This is just a snippet of questions I have … Continue reading
I know I chose to be part of a transracial family and I would not trade my foursome for the world. I also know that with being part of a transracial family we stand out amongst the crowds. I have … Continue reading
The moment has arrived…our second son Ellison River Gray is here. He was born at 1:05am after a long and emotional labor. Jason and I could not be happier. Harper loves having a baby brother and each second with Ellison is a new experience for him. Seeing my two boys together is amazing and beyond words. I cannot wait to watch them grow up together and form a bond stronger than any force.
This adoption was vastly different than our first. One of the hardest parts was the waiting for Ellison to be born. Harper was already born when we met his birth mother. The wait included being in the dark most of the time regarding all details of the pregnancy. This lead to such an emotional roller coaster, which we knew was bound to end, but it was hard to see that end in sight. I have to say that these last four months have been some of the hardest of my life. But, look what I have now. An amazing son to complete my family of four! Another boy…can you believe it. I am so out-numbered! lol
Other than Ellison himself, the best gift of this entire situation is that their birth mother and I had the chance to get to know one another on such a deep level and really had a chance to bond. She is immensely important to me and always will be. I could not be more grateful for the time I was able to spend with her. She is an amazing woman who has made my family life complete. She has changed my life in the best of ways forever and I will always love her.
Now, we plan on getting an attorney, going through 6 months of supervision and hopefully finalizing the adoption shortly after the end of the 6 months of supervision. I will keep you posted as our finalization is nearer.
Thank you all for your continued love and support of our family and for taking this journey with us though this blog that we started before Harper was even in our lives.
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Something amazing has happened. Something out of the blue, not planned, and not expected. Something that makes me nervous, excited, anxious, happy, sad and a mixture of 100 other emotions… On Saturday, January 23rd around 10:30am, I received a phone call … Continue reading
Can you even believe it?! How has Harper become a VERY talkative/energetic/SMART/awesome three year old already? When they say that time flies with kiddos, believe me they are telling the truth. I took him to his 3 year old check-up … Continue reading
I am feeling frustrated and felt the urge to write it down, maybe if I’m lucky, to find others who identify with this frustration. Sometimes I feel like I am in a world where most people have their eyes firmly … Continue reading
As I look at this blank page, I have such a variety of thoughts regarding Harper running through my mind all at once… How has time flown so quickly that he is going to be 3 years old in November? … Continue reading
We recently took a family vacation to Hawaii and sailed on a cruise ship for 11 days. It was exciting for many reasons, but most of all, it was exciting because Harper was able to experience so many more firsts. … Continue reading
As I was driving Harper home from school earlier this week, out of the blue and in between bites of his after school snack, Harper says, “I like your red shirt, Mommy.” Totally surprised by his acknowledgment of my red shirt and his fondness for it, I said, “Thank you, baby” in a most likely surprised tone. Then, he just went back on to enjoying his snack. It truly never ceases to amaze me on a daily basis what is coming out of my beautiful and precocious son’s mouth. His vocabulary is beyond flourishing and his expressive personality is abundant. He is funny and loves to pretend (which he at times will tell me he is doing when I catch him doing something he is not supposed to do), decisive and stubborn, loving and forgiving, and so fun to watch experience things both Jason and I seem as ordinary until we see him experience them for the first time.
There are so many fun (and exhausting) aspects of having a 2 year old. One of the most common may be their curiosity and making you explain something over and over. The funniest part of this for us is that instead of just asking about something that he does not understand, Harper will say, “Mommy(Daddy), talk about it.” This is so funny to us and such an interesting facet of his personality. Another adorable occurrence has been Harper’s great friendships he has made and that are developing stronger and stronger each day. He loves playing with his friends and looks forward to seeing them each day at school. They hold hands or hug at times, mimic each other (sometimes not the best thing to do), hold conversations with each other, learn together, eat together, and have new experiences together daily. It is adorable and so sweet to see the connections they make at such an early age.
We have been trying to get Harper to use the potty and had big news the other day…Harper went poop in the potty at school! For those of you who do not have kids, you may think, “why all this talk about going to the bathroom?” I have to say, it is such a huge accomplishment, I just have to talk about it. In fact, having a child makes going to the bathroom a very consistent part of your every day discussions. lol
As you all know, I am a HUGE transracial adoption advocate and feel we all need to be continuously educated about the complexities of this type of adoption. Adoption is complicated enough on its own, and when you add the transracial aspect, it becomes all the more complicated. I love our little family and the differences we all bring to the table, but am not so naïve as to think our lives are or will be all roses. In fact, we have had many experiences to date that I would say have been very eye opening and challenging as a transracial family. As Harper becomes more and more his own person, he will go through many emotions and situations on his own. I wanted to share a great article written by a transracial adoptee. Just click on the link below.